3 April 2014

A Mother's Always....Wrong!


3 Children and It

After 13 years, 12 and 9 (respectively), I think that I know my children pretty well. If you asked me to describe their characters, likes and dislikes, future aspirations, I could reel off a pretty accurate summary. But as with everything, children like to keep us on our toes. Just when I think I've got them sussed, they go and do something to prove me wrong....


The Boy is placid, shy and fairly unassuming. He is also funny, kind and very helpful. What he isn't, is confident, outspoken and seeking the limelight. In fact he is the exact opposite. When The Boy came home from school a few weeks ago, announcing that the school play auditions had taken place, I didn't take much notice. In fact I had momentarily forgotten that a school play was even taking place. Partly because that's what happens when you have a third child but mainly because I knew he wouldn't want a speaking part. 

A week later, he came out of school in his usual care-free manner; not excited and whooping like some of his peers. He was however, chatting rather animatedly to a school mate and clutching something that looked distinctly like a script. Yes, my boy had only gone and got himself a speaking part - with 40 lines no less (if you have a child in junior school, you will know just how important it is to document the exact number of lines)! 

This news shocked me, thrilled me and terrified me all at the same time. My little boy, the one who struggles to even speak to an adult without blushing, right there on centre stage in front of 150 people? I honestly couldn't imagine it. 

We spent hours running through the lines - The Tween, The Boy and I. Occasionally even The Teenager joined in. I think his sisters were secretly very proud of him; despite their best efforts, neither of them had ever had such big speaking parts in the junior school play. He was certainly well prepared and taking the job very seriously (probably one of the reasons why he was picked for the part). 

The big day arrived. The Tween had asked if she could come along and I was just pleased to have someone beside me to take my mind off the nerves! I had subtly prepped her to encourage and congratulate him, no matter what his performance was like. I knew that this was pushing him out of his comfort zone and I didn't want anything to challenge his bravery. 

Well I needn't have worried. He wasn't the best, or the funniest; he wasn't the one who got the loudest cheer, but he totally bowled me over. I saw a different boy up there on the stage: one who had responsibly learnt every line and delivered them with ease; one who had matured and grown in confidence, almost without me noticing. 



Here's the thing: I think we often underestimate our children, making decisions for them based on past history; making assumptions about their personalities when they are still a work of art. I had drawn conclusions about my boy which were inaccurate and yes, he had proved me wrong again. Thankfully, this time it was a good wrong and one I was very proud of :)

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44 comments:

  1. WOW 40 lines is a lot for an adult too and I would probably "ummm" my way through it at that age - he sounds like he did really well. So great when you see their confidence grow isn't it?

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    1. A child's memory is so much better than an adult's - no nonsense cluttering it up!

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  2. I think you are completely right, we do underestimate our kids very often and I love it when they prove us wrong. Well done to your boy, a proud mummy moment indeed. Mich x

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  3. How brilliant! And yes, I think in addition to his obvious talent, his commitment and reliability would make him an excellent choice for a big speaking part! You can teach acting but if someone is flaky there is not a lot you can do about that in a few weeks...

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    1. I'm not sure there was a lot of 'acting' involved but as you say, he was certainly committed!

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  4. Well done to him! You're right it is easy to assume you know what your kids talents are, but they do keep developing and changing. I know my son surprised me too when he took a speaking part and did well recently. Lovely that the girls were so supportive and proud too.

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    1. They didn't make their support very well known but I could tell they were proud :)

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  5. Yeh! Does he want to do it again at the next play? I so often get caught out by them growing up. Secondary school is adding a whole new dimension at the moment for us. Wish they would all slow down. Smiling at you briefing your tween to say the right thing.

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    1. Thankfully, on this occasion she did! She's pretty good at encouraging him actually - he's her little brother :)

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  6. a huge well done to him, not only for accepting the part but also for the dedication to learn the lines and go forth with confidence. and also to you for making into the young man he is.

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  7. Awww bless him. I Iove it when they do something great that we completely don't expect, it keeps us on our toes! :)

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  8. Oh, this is wonderful. I do love it when they surprise us, and they do - regularly! It sounds like your son did a wonderful job, and took it seriously; very mature x

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    1. He really is very mature for his age but I guess that probably comes with having older sisters.x

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  9. That made my heart swell - some of the hardest and proudest moments are when we discover we don't know our kids as well as we thought we did. Well done to him!

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  10. That's wonderful - a huge congratulations to him! You must have been so proud. X

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  11. Awww that's wonderful , you must be very proud .x

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  12. Well done to him! The thought of public speaking as an adult, let alone a child, brings fear to me! He sounds like an absolute superstar . I don't think you are underestimating at all, our children just surprise us from time to time:) they are growing up before our eyes:) great post!

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  13. That's amazing that he remembered all his lines! I know that I would struggle having to stand up in public and speak, you must be so proud! x

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  14. Aww I am so proud of him too! It takes lots of guts to do this things. He's got guts! Congrats to your and to him. =) #loudnproud

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  15. Wow, well done. It goes to show that our children will grow and develop and make us so proud. Well done to him

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  16. Well done to your boy, and so lovely to hear the pride just oozing through in the post from you. You're right, I think we are often in danger of projecting our own anxieties onto our kids. Lovely post xx

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  17. Well done, it's nice to be proven wrong on some occasions like this x

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  18. This is great, well done to him for going for it. That is quite a big part, you are right to be proud x

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  19. Awwwww I'm glad he proved you wrong x

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  20. WOW! Well don't to him for giving it a go! I could never have done something like this when I was at school! You should be very proud!

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  21. Oh Suzanne, bless him! How brave of him, I bet you were the proudest mum there! My wee man is exactly the same - definitely one to shy away from the limelight. But sometimes they really surprise you, don't they?! E x

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  22. Such a lovely post. Well done to your boy. I love the photograph too. Great shot!

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  23. Arrr well done, I bet he was so pleased he did it! I am also guilty of this, when I had Joseph's parents evening I said how quiet he can be when he is with his friends and how his confidence is growing. His teacher looked surprised and told me that in class he is very confident and will speak out and voice his opinions! I was surprised but very proud x

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  24. What a lovely surprise for you and a job well done for him. Hidden talents - always tear-jerkers. Cue super pride!

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  25. brilliant- that is so great to hear! My children often surprise me too in a good way. J started drama classes a couple of years ago (almost 2 years exactly come to think of it as i was pregnant with Miss T when he started) and I thought he'd just do one or two lessons and not cope (even though it is ASD drama - i still didn't think he was a drama kind of person). Just tonight he told me he is their longest standing member and I thought wow - if it was up to me, i would never have even put him in a drama class and yet here he is two years on loving it! x

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  26. 40 lines is a lot! well done to him x

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  27. It's so good when your child does something you wouldn't expect - when it's a positive thing. Well done that boy!

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  28. aw weldone him, bet mummy is so proud, my daughters had assemblys this week too the lines arre getting longer x

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  29. Give him a high five from me!!

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  30. I like this post. This is really an informative post.

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  31. Wow, brilliant! Well done him. And yes, you're right, we should try and forget to put limits on them sometimes. I know I'm guilty x

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  32. Well done him, I love Am Dram so know how scary it is!!

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  33. Excellent. It's lovely when they do something so unexpected and make us burst with pride

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  34. No wonder you are proud! 40 lines is amazing. This post made me a bit teary. :-) #PoCoLo

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  35. Aw bless him ;-)

    I often under estimate my two and then they surprise me with something new that I never would have believed of them.

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  36. How beautiful that your son surprised you, and exceeded your expectations. I suspect he may well do that a lot in the future. It's always the quiet ones you have to watch :-)

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  37. It's good to keep us on our toes! Even now I think I know what Nancy can and can't do and she will still surprise me (usually when she's with someone else!) By doing something else or different! You must be very proud of your boy x

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  38. My daughter is similar then one day surprised us and her teachers by composinh her own song and performing it in front of both year 2 classes!

    You must be so proud of your son! Must have been such an epic moment for you to witness it!

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