22 March 2013

How the mighty have fallen...



When I first became a mum, at the age of 28, I considered myself to be young.  By other people's standards I probably wasn't, but as one of the first of my friends to have children, I was a little smug at being a long way off  'mumsy' (again, my own opinion) -  a label I hoped never to be saddled with. 

My own mother was also 28 when she had me. Worryingly, I remember my sister and I thinking she was very a little out of date and definitely not someone to go to for fashion advice.  As we moved into the horrible teenage years, when she became the butt of all our jokes, the notion that anyone would ever want to shop in Marks and Spencer, had us rolling in the aisles (the fact that we are both now the proud owners of one too many Per Una cardies, says it all!)

Since reaching the wrong side of 40, I am ever so slightly concerned that I may be turning into my mother and dare I say it, becoming a tad 'out of touch'.  Certain circumstances or conversations over the past year, have got me thinking....


No more 'yummy mummy'

When popping on dog-walking 'scruffs' (jeans, trainers and a hoodie) a few weeks ago, Tween 2 remarked: "you look young today Mum - more how you used to look, not all scarves and boots".  Well, correct me if I'm wrong but I thought that scarves and boots (accompanied by a pair of skinny jeans) were the staple attire for a 'yummy mummy' these days. Clearly not in an 11 year old's eyes!

Stuck in a rut

Just recently, when a friend recommended a wonderful make-up product that everyone else in the room seemed to possess, yet I had never heard of, I realised that I may have become 'stuck in a rut' with my make-up.  Despite vowing never to be one of those women seen plastering on pan-stick and bright green eye-shadow, 20 years after the fashion has reached it's peak, I now fear that this may be a possibility (*hushed voice* one of my favourite lipsticks is actually 20 years old!).
 
Keeping up with the youngsters

Only last week, both tweens were mocking my seemingly pathetic attempt to try to keep up with the times, by adding a little 'lol' into my text or email. Apparently, this effort to remain 'in' with the youngsters is just plain hilarious, especially by someone who is clearly so ancient *tuts and rolls eyes, tween style*
 
Rejected hand-me-downs

Now that my girls are getting bigger, I occasionally offer them my cast-offs (items that have shrunk in the wash or I'm just bored of).  On the odd occasion, when said cast-off is a pair of Top Shop jeans, that seems to be ok.  More recently however, I am likely to be greeted with a quizzical look, one that needs no words,  and at this point, I know that the recycling bin is likely to be a more grateful recipient!
 
Fashion faux pas

Last year the OH and I attended my cousins' wedding.  Having not been to a wedding for a while, I was rather excited at the prospect of getting dressed up. I already had a dress that I had only worn once so decided that would be perfectly adequate.  I then looked in my wardrobe for the only pair of 'weddingy' shoes that I possess.  Despite them being approximately 11 years old (I bought them for my sister's wedding), I still love them.  For the first time ever, I looked at them, not knowing if they were still fashionable. I asked my 11 year old (who answered in the negative) and then I posted a picture on Facebook of all places! All the other mummies declared a resounding 'yes'! The fact that I even needed to ask, confirmed that I had 'lost touch'. A sad day indeed.

Unexpected Mail

And if all of this wasn't depressing enough, last week I received a mail-order catalogue through my door....please tell me that I am never, ever, ever going to be purchasing anything from this catalogue. Surely their mailing list is desperately in need of an update - no 40ish woman in her right mind would be considering this kind of clothing....then again, orange is very in this year (or was that last year?)


So there we have it, the tables have turned and I am asking my children for fashion advice *plants head on desk* When did this happen?  I never thought it would be me! 

Have you reached this stage yet?  Or do you intend to remain in denial, still sporting your knee length boots and skinny jeans until the day you die?!




37 comments:

  1. It s every teenagers right to dismiss their mothers as mumsy. And to be fair, we are Mums, so in a sense there is no insult in that! Their idea of what is 'mumsy' is going to be the yummy mummy uniform of skinnies and boots, because that's what most of the mums wear, whereas our idea of mumsy is prob a tad more floral a la the delightful catalogue of orange! I say revel in being comfortable in your own skin, wear what makes you happy, and if you can manage to embarrass your teenager into the bargain then all the better! :)

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    1. For me, the word 'mumsy' has all sorts of hideous frumpy connotations. Just can't accept that might be me!

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  2. I am so passe I make the past tense seem present! Orange is in? I hope not, the colour is hideous on me. I suspect this is the curse of having little girls - they will one day be our fashion police!

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    1. Actually orange has been 'in' for a few years and thankfully it does suit me! I knew there would come a time...just thought I wasn't there yet!

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  3. Great post! I'm not mumsy, in either the floral sense or the yummy mummy uniform sense. I posses no skinny jeans, knee high boots or scarves. That's because I insist on dressing like a teenage boy! My own son has got his first Superdry Tshirt and he is very happy with it :) To my kids, I'm cool, but of course I have boys! To other people (mums) my clothing might be considered embarrassing, but I am happy dressed like this. I am actually interested in fashion and like looking at it. I think I know what's fashionable, I just choose to stick with my own Superdry uniform.

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    1. I think it's definitely a girl thing... My middle one is very fond of leopard print, not so great on me ;)

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  4. Erk, I LIVE in skinny jeans and boots and scarves. And I, too, thought I looked quite 'with it'. Clearly showing my age! Mind you, do they really want us dressed in what they would wear? Surely not!

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    1. No they do not. Leopard print and too much bling is definitely ageing ;)

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  5. I think it's a girl thing and having one who desires up to the minute trends! I bought a Superdry jacket yesterday...you would be proud!

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  6. I am so with you on this, Suzanne. It was my fear about 3 years ago. However, when I started my blog a year ago it was just the kick up the bum I needed. Now I follow a few fashion bloggers in my age range and a few beauty ones to boot. It means I always have the information I need to hand. I've also re-started my Red Magazine subscription. A quick flick through when I think I'm going to buying some clothes reminds me of what I should be looking for.
    I recently blogged about having a Bobbi Brown Makeup lesson (free). A few people have since said you should do these sorts of lessons every couple of years. I truly didn't think I was stuck in a rut until I had the lesson and have now changed a few things, bought a few new makeup products and feel better in the morning when I put it all on.
    Lets power through the 40's together!! - The 40year old

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    1. Us 40 something's should unite! A free makeover sounds like a fab idea....going to explore that :)

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  7. Oh no - I thought you were fashionable - I think I need to ask your girls for some advice too then. I don't think my boys would offer much help at all! I would probably be going around in a pirate outfit x

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    1. Ooh, thank you Louise! Us mums need to stick together...looking forward to seeing you in your Pirate outfit at Britmums!

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  8. Oh dear! I vowed never to turn into my Mum and when I had my first child I thought I could still be a 'yummy mummy'. How things have changed since my second child has come along. I still make a bit of an effort for the school run by putting a bit of slap on (just so I don't scare any kids mainly!) but my hair is always a mess and I don't really care what I'm wearing - 10 year old jeans that show off my muffin top...why not, it's only the school run! By the way the clothes in that catalogue are horrible, definitely not appropriate for a 40 something, more like a 70 something?!

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    1. I was thinking the same thing - why the heck am I on their mailing list. Have they been following me?!

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  9. I was never fashionable so no change ;o) x

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  10. I am my pre-teens nightmare! if its comfy i wear it .. lol lol

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  11. Your Mum has now turned into your Gran. There is no hope. I don't come out of this post too well if I wasn't even fashionable in my thirties in my daughters' eyes - but it didn't really bother me then. I think my high fashion period was for about 3 years circa 1960 to 1963! Some women tend to have their favourite period and stick to it - hairstyles and all. Look at HM the Queen! P.S. Yummy mummies are extremely irritating. What are they trying to prove?

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  12. It HAS to be them, not you!! Just kids getting older and more assertive in their opinions! I am still at the "I like your dress Mummy" stage, but she is 2 1/2 so give her a few more years and the tune would have changed! Oh my goodness - that catalogue! x

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  13. I can associate majorly on all of these things. I am also finding it hard to place myself on how to clothe a woman of my age. Do I go for young fashion and run the risk of looking like mutton (?!). I just can't bring myself to go for 'older woman'style. Mutton it is then, eh?! Thanks for linking up for some #PoCoLo xx

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  14. I really love this post. I was 28 when I had Primrose and I still feel a little bit the 'gym slip' mummy at nursery drop off here in suburbia. I say embrace whatever makes YOU feel fabulous. I am afraid I shall cling on to the kaftans and turbans for a bit longer....

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    1. Isn't it funny? I felt young for so long and now I'm just beginning to feel my age - can't believe it!

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  15. I am still happily in denial and wearing shockingly short skirts and high heels. I have another decade or so before my daughter will be rolling her eyes and telling me how embarrassing I am... But I am totally with the other commenters: it is definitely them and not you. We are defining the mummy-look, and mummies are per definition embarrassing to teenagers and certainly not to be emulated. I still feel embarrassed if I wear one of my mum's hand-me-downs.

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  16. Denial all the way! Although I don't think fashion ever found me let alone left me behind! Great post, found you via PoCoLo linky :)

    Kate
    Just Pirouette and Carry On...

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  17. haha, this did make me laugh, in an almost mournful way, because I think I'm skipping being my mother and I've gone straight to being my granny. I'm pretty sure that by the time they are tweens my girls will be mortified by me!

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    1. Ha ha! The catalogue would have been perfect for you then ;)

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  18. I ask my 20 year old for fashion advice all the time! And it must be good cos she often steals my clothes :)

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    1. I would def trust a 20 year old over an 11 year old!

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  19. As I turn *cough* 40 this year I thought I was doing okay... But as I am also in the skinny jeans, boots and scarves brigade, perhaps not :) Loved this post! I think we all turn into our mothers...!

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  20. Great post, I never seem to get it right, my son brought me addidas track bottoms for the gym then laughed at me when I wore them hehe :) I try to wear what I love and thats usually skinny jean ha :) Thanks for joining us at welcome to the weekend hop...

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  21. I've always loved fashion and clothes and try very hard to stay the right side of it but consider my age and what suits me. However when the weather is cold and it's been that a lot this winter, I am mostly very practical and I don't like it, but being warm has to come before being stylish. That certainly is a sign of being mumsy.

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  22. I have been thinking about this all weekend! Am horrified..I thought I was a stylish Mummy with my skinnies and boots and now I see I am just a frumpy Mum. I'm not ready to be consigned to the scrap heap yet :0) I hope there's going to be a follow up post...style advice for all us 'has beens!'

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  23. There's no hope for me then - my five year old already has an opinion on what I am wearing. I dread to think what she'll be saying when she's a teenager!

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  24. I am SO out of touch with fashion - luckily my daughter's only 6 and the boys aren't remotely bothered. But my sisters despair at my 'boring' jeans/jumper combo and are constantly trying to take me shopping. I may give something different a go for a day or two, but always slip back into comfort….

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  25. I am in my *ahem* mid-twenties and am completely clueless about fashion. I dread the day Meg starts offering her opinion on what I'm wearing!

    ps. I also thought skinny jeans and a scarf were acceptable, that's my daily outfit!

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  26. I don't think I've ever been really 'with it' or 'cool' in any way and definitely not a yummy mummy but I'd hate to think I was mumsy! Yikes! Teaching teenagers keeps you a little younger I think if only mentally and my eldest takes pity on her mother, colours my hair for me and does her very best to help me hold back the years if only to stop me from being an embarrassment in front of her friends!

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  27. I thought skinny jeans were all I needed to look like a yummy mummy! Luckily, I don't have tweens yet to tell me I'm wrong, so I dress as I please. No matter what we wear, our kids will never think we're 'with it' anyway!

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